Attachment Styles:
Ultimate Guide & Workbook
Your Ultimate Digital Workbook includes:
- 446 pages, including 114 pages of practical exercises Guides to the secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment styles
- Descriptions of how all four attachment styles develop in childhood
- Explanations as to how all four attachment styles interact with one another
- How each attachment style affects us in over 10 different areas of life
- 24 case studies
- Groundbreaking and up-to-date research on all of the attachment styles
- Section recaps and areas for reflection
- 446 pages, including 114 pages of practical exercises Guides to the secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment styles
- Descriptions of how all four attachment styles develop in childhood
- Explanations as to how all four attachment styles interact with one another
- How each attachment style affects us in over 10 different areas of life
- 24 case studies
- Groundbreaking and up-to-date research on all of the attachment styles
- Section recaps and areas for reflection
Customer Reviews
“This workbook had all the answers! It wasn’t until I started trying the exercises that I realized how much of an impact it actually has! The info about the strengths of my attachment style was really helpful to read, as I feel like I can get bogged down in the “something’s wrong with me” thoughts sometimes.”
Emma L.
“I did the test, and got a pretty accurate analysis, so thought I’d give the anxious workbook a try. It really has helped me a lot with understanding my behavior and why I act in certain ways in my relationships. More importantly, though, it has taught me some practical ways to change it!”
Nima M.
“Wow! My behavior makes so much more sense now. I’ve always been a people-pleaser, afraid that people would leave me if I wasn’t. But now that I understand why I’ve done this and how it affects my behavior, I can notice when it’s happening and put a stop to it. It’s going to be tough, but I’m ready to make some meaningful changes.”
Shauna C.
“I strongly recommend this workbook to anyone with an avoidant attachment style. The exercises were really helpful and helped me better understand my attachment style as well as how to deal with it. I recommend it to anyone who wants to improve their relationships by working on their attachment style.”
Alessandro C.
How will this workbook help me?
To help you decide whether our workbook is right for you, here’s everything you’ll learn about:
Part 1: All About Attachment
Clearly explains the concept of attachment theory and the main differences between each attachment style.
Part 2: Your Attachment Style
Dives into some mistakes to avoid when discovering your attachment style, the behavioral purpose of the attachment system, and the five conditions for secure attachment.
Parts 3, 4, 5, & 6
Details how each of the attachment styles form in early childhood, how they affect areas of life like relationships and work, and how to identify attachment superpowers in the secure and three insecure attachment styles.
These sections also include helpful exercises from the included “Attachment Exercise Book” for each of the attachment styles.
Part 7: Therapies and Alternative Approaches
To help you determine if therapy is the right route for you–and which form.
Part 8: Attachment & Neuroscience
Assists in your understanding of how your brain responded to your early experiences.
Part 9: Attachment Exercises
A range of exercises designed for each of the attachment styles, to help address issues associated with your attachment patterns: Early experiences, self-perceptions, thoughts and actions, and outlook on relationships.
To help you decide whether our workbook is right for you, here’s everything you’ll learn about:
Part 1: All About Attachment
Clearly explains the concept of attachment theory and the main differences between each attachment style.
Part 2: Your Attachment Style
Dives into some mistakes to avoid when discovering your attachment style, the behavioral purpose of the attachment system, and the five conditions for secure attachment.
Parts 3, 4, 5, & 6
Details how each of the attachment styles form in early childhood, how they affect areas of life like relationships and work, and how to identify attachment superpowers in the secure and three insecure attachment styles.
These sections also include helpful exercises from the included “Attachment Exercise Book” for each of the attachment styles.
Part 7: Therapies and Alternative Approaches
To help you determine if therapy is the right route for you–and which form.
Part 8: Attachment & Neuroscience
Assists in your understanding of how your brain responded to your early experiences.
Part 9: Attachment Exercises
A range of exercises designed for each of the attachment styles, to help address issues associated with your attachment patterns: Early experiences, self-perceptions, thoughts and actions, and outlook on relationships.
Ready to learn about all four attachment styles?
Everyone’s journey to a more secure attachment is unique, and that’s why we created our new Ultimate Digital Workbook. It will help you understand your personal experience of your own attachment style and that of others in the following ways:
- Learn about all of attachment styles in depth–secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized–to help you and your loved ones create a stronger, more secure bond.
- Discover how the different attachment styles impact relationships, work, parenting, and other areas of life, and how to make positive changes by targeting dysfunctional patterns.
- Access practical, in-depth exercises that reveal personal attachment patterns, challenges, strengths, and support systems.
- Gain an understanding of the superpowers/strengths that each attachment style uniquely possesses.
- Realize how our brains respond and adapt to how early needs were met, removing shame and blame from self-perceptions in the attachment neuroscience section.
- Learn about ways of connecting and setting boundaries with partners with different attachment styles to build stronger, healthier bonds.
- Find out about the leading forms of therapy and some alternative approaches to healing, if you feel that’s the right step for you.
All of this will help you and your loved ones pave a path to a healthier attachment style.
Everyone’s journey to a more secure attachment is unique, and that’s why we created our new Ultimate Digital Workbook. It will help you understand your personal experience of your own attachment style and that of others in the following ways:
- Learn about all of attachment styles in depth–secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized–to help you and your loved ones create a stronger, more secure bond.
- Discover how the different attachment styles impact relationships, work, parenting, and other areas of life, and how to make positive changes by targeting dysfunctional patterns.
- Access practical, in-depth exercises that reveal personal attachment patterns, challenges, strengths, and support systems.
- Gain an understanding of the superpowers/strengths that each attachment style uniquely possesses.
- Realize how our brains respond and adapt to how early needs were met, removing shame and blame from self-perceptions in the attachment neuroscience section.
- Learn about ways of connecting and setting boundaries with partners with different attachment styles to build stronger, healthier bonds.
- Find out about the leading forms of therapy and some alternative approaches to healing, if you feel that’s the right step for you.
All of this will help you and your loved ones pave a path to a healthier attachment style.
Can you identify with the common signs of each attachment style?
Please keep in mind, even if you have one particular attachment style, you don’t need to identify with all of its characteristics outlined below. Everybody has a unique personality and life experiences–and these affect how the traits of your attachment style play out in different situations.
Secure Attachment
- You have a positive self attitude. Due to your stable early years, you have a strong sense of self and self-agency.
- You have a favorable view of others; you tend to trust your partners and their intentions and do not typically feel jealous or doubt a loved one’s intentions.
- You seek out emotional closeness with others and give it back in return–you enjoy mutual dependency.
- You exude warmth and express your feelings openly and comfortably (when appropriate).
- You are capable of initiating and maintaining meaningful long-term relationships, but are also comfortable being alone.
- You are aware of your emotions and are able to regulate them. You are also able to help insecure partners to balance theirs when they are feeling too much or too little.
Anxious Attachment
- Due to an inconsistent formative period, you may feel as though you’re unworthy of love. As a result, you seek external validation and reassurance from others in an attempt to prove to yourself that you deserve love and affection.
- You fear rejection and criticism. Thus, you may become highly upset at any form of disapproval.
- You self-sacrifice and put the needs of others first.
- You struggle with being single or alone for periods of time. Relationships and intimacy are strongly connected with an anxious attacher’s feelings of self-worth, therefore you may crave attention and try to impress others in an attempt to get it.
- You are attentive to your loved ones–almost to a fault. Others may end up taking advantage of your kind and generous nature because of this trait.
Avoidant Attachment
- Due to an emotionally rejecting formative period, you prefer to maintain an emotional distance from others. If someone does attempt to forge an intimate bond with you, you pull away from the relationship.
- You dislike being dependent on others and see yourself as self-sufficient and independent. You may possibly even present a false persona to the world.
- You fear that closeness and vulnerability with a partner will cause you to be hurt.
- You come across as aloof and distant; you struggle with expressing or identifying your emotions.
- You dislike relying on others or having others rely on you.
Disorganized Attachment
- An extreme need for closeness, combined with a fear of closeness and tendencies to push others away.
- An extreme fear of rejection, combined with difficulties connecting with and trusting others.
- Unpredictable or chaotic patterns of behaviors in relationships.
- A negative self-image and poor self-worth, accompanied by thoughts of being unlovable or unworthy.
- Difficulties opening up to, trusting in, and bonding with others. Deep down you expect partners to reject you.
- Deep-rooted feelings of self-blame and shame, which can lead to experiences of anxiety or depression.
Our dedicated Ultimate Workbook on all four attachment styles help you to find the answers you need.
Who Is The Attachment Project?
“The Attachment Project is dedicated to educating and enabling one to work through their attachment style and overall psychological health.”
– Paula Sacks, Attachment Specialist and Author
The Attachment Project’s mission is to be at the forefront of attachment theory. We are committed to providing our community with the leading approaches to attachment theory and pioneering and investing in advancements in the field. Here are some of the things we’ve achieved:
- Raised over $700,000 (USD) for cultural preservation projects in Nepal.
- Helped over 1 million people discover their attachment style and start their healing journey using our online Attachment Quiz.
- Shared free content (and continue to) on our blog and Instagram to spread the awareness of attachment theory and provide no-cost support and information to anyone who needs it.
- A range of online tools to support insecure attachers on their healing journey.
FAQs
Why this workbook? Why not go straight to therapy?
We wish to highlight that therapy with a trained mental health professional is the most appropriate route for people with mental health difficulties. This workbook works well for people who are not in significant mental health distress or as a therapy aid. Most therapies start with building self-awareness and the foundations for self-development; this workbook can help you start this process by aiding you in accessing deeper understanding.
Why should I choose this workbook over other books on attachment?
The Attachment Project workbooks are different from others on the market as they are designed with the user perspective in mind. Meaning that our goal is to help you both understand and process your attachment issues by providing information on how your attachment style developed and affects your current relationships, as well as exercises on how to internalize this information. We also dedicate ourselves to the field of attachment through ever-expanding research and disseminating new information to our audience. So you’re in the hands of people who truly care about your health.
What format does this workbook come in?
At this time, all of our workbooks are in digital PDF form. This is due to the regularity with which we update our workbooks with the latest research and information, as well as access to extra worksheets.
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