We offer you support and guidance on your journey towards better relationships and a happier, more fulfilling life.
Our founder, Jock Gordon, came from a family of war veterans; his Great Grandfather was a World War I veteran, his Grandfather was a World War II veteran, and his father suffered from PTSD after his time in Vietnam. You could potentially say that trauma ran in his family…due to these factors, Jock carried the weight of transgenerational trauma and struggled with reading his own thoughts and emotions, as well as with building healthy, fulfilling relationships.
Seeking answers and support, Jock stumbled onto attachment theory, which sparked his interest immediately. Yet, Jock quickly realized that there was a shortage of specialists in the area who could help him to overcome his attachment insecurity. He began to wonder – in the same way that he didn’t benefit from one school of thought, or one therapy – whether many other people were struggling in the same way.
Through exploration of the area, Jock encountered a range of different therapies and approaches, and ultimately, started to combine elements of the ones that he found to be most effective. Essentially, he came to the realization that therapy doesn’t have to fit a specific mold for people to achieve positive change in their lives – in fact, the contrary might just be the best approach.
The Attachment Project’s genesis was born from the drive to distribute it’s insights on human attachment, as well as it’s alternative approaches to healing, to as many people as possible.
Today, people from all over the world are discovering more about their attachment styles using our online tools. Our goal is to keep expanding and finding new ways to raise awareness and interest in the science of human attachment.
We all want happy and balanced relationships – it’s a universal desire. And yet, most of us don’t understand the foundation of why we connect with each other in the manner that we do – regardless of whether we are successful at initiating and maintaining relationships, or whether we find the whole process a challenge.
Your attachment style is not set in stone. You can learn to attach more securely, to get in touch with your emotional needs, and to form relationships that last. But it would be difficult to do so without overcoming ingrained attachment issues, insecurities, and childhood trauma.
Cultivating a secure attachment doesn’t only carry benefits for the individual, but also for the significant others in their life, and even for their future generations.
Think about it this way; we develop our attachment style from our caregivers. Therefore, it makes sense that our caregivers formed their attachment style based on their bond with their caregivers, and so on and so forth. Thus, attachment styles and trauma are typically passed through generations of families.
But many people don’t have the benefit of being aware of this. Knowledge, understanding, and action can help to heal an insecure attachment and ensure that we don’t pass on the same traits – so that our children don’t have to struggle in the same way that we did.
Attachment styles are fixed patterns of behavior that a child develops by the age of two. Once the behaviors are locked-in, three out of four people never change that pattern later in childhood, adolescence, and ultimately as adults.
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