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The Superpowers of Fearful Avoidant Attachment
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An Attachment Bond isn't in Every Relationship. Here’s Why.
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How to Heal Disorganized Attachment: Self-Regulation Tips
8 Aug 2021
Self-regulation means that you manage your emotions and actions in regard to what you want in the long-run. Basically, it means think before you act. This means understanding what triggers you in your relationships.
Avoidant Attachment Triggers and Tips for Healthy Self Regulation
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Understanding how to self regulate your emotions is an essential skill. However, having avoidant attachment may impact your ability to do so.
Self-Soothing Strategies for Coping With Anxious Attachment
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Understanding how to self regulate our emotions and actions is an essential skill to develop. If you are working towards “earned secure attachment”, think of this as a milestone on that path.
Insecure Attachment Styles: From Childhood to Adulthood
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Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style: Causes and Impact on Life
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The fearful avoidant attachment is thought to be the most difficult. Sadly, this attachment style is often seen in children that have experienced trauma or abuse.
What Is Anxious Avoidant Attachment and What Causes It?
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Anxious avoidant attachment typically develops in the first 18 months of life. During this formative period, a child’s caregiver may have been emotionally unavailable to them most of the time.
What Is Anxious Ambivalent Attachment and What Causes It?
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Anxious ambivalent attachment typically develops in children whose caregiver may have acted nurturing and responsive one minute and unavailable or insensitive the next.
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Have you ever wondered how attachment style tests are measured? Or whether the test you are completing is actually reliable?
What Is Schema Therapy & How Does it Relate to Attachment?
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The focus of Schema Therapy is on the treatment of chronic, pervasive, and long-standing dysfunctional behavioral patterns.
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10 Attachment Theory Mistakes to Avoid
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The most common traps you might fall into when you first discover attachment theory.
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Attachment styles play a role in the way we approach and experience sex.
Here's What We Know About Attachment Styles in the Workplace
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Attachment styles can affect the way we perform in the workplace - mainly because our work environments include social dynamics.
Secure Attachment - from Childhood to Adult Relationships
2 Jul 2020
People who have developed this type of attachment are self-content, easy to connect with and are able to express their feelings.
Attachment Styles & Their Role in Relationships
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Research has identified four main attachment styles: anxious / preoccupied, dismissive / avoidant, disorganized and secure.
Avoidant Attachment Style: Causes & Symptoms
2 Jul 2020
Parents who are strict, emotionally unavailable and expect their child to be independent usually raise a child with avoidant attachment.
Disorganized Attachment: Causes & Symptoms
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In adulthood, people with this attachment style are extremely inconsistent in their behavior and have a hard time trusting others.
Anxious Attachment: Causes & Symptoms
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Low self-esteem, strong fear of rejection or abandonment, and clinginess in relationships are common signs of this attachment style.
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